Oliver,the only ability you have as a friend is letting her know that you're there for her and just give a little warning or some sign about what she's getting herself into,(if you KNOW what she's getting into.)
The rest is up to her.Her choices,her dilemmas,her life.Ofcourse,you want your friend to be safe and happy etc,but the thing is,these days people just don't listen.If i tell one of my friends to stop smoking because it's bad for his health,do you honestly think he'll listen to me? The only way they'll know what you mean,is by experiencing and seeing the effects,which yeah,sometimes it's too late to turn back.But I as a friend already did my job,now it's up to him to decide.
Are you with me? That's just my opinion.Everyone lives and learns,sometimes they learn a little too late,but if they don't listen,what else can you do?
This weekend was very interesting as I began talking with this old friend of mine,and he began spilling out everything he regretted and you know what? He learned a lot.And although it was the hard way,he still learned,and he'll take this pot of experience and feed what's inside to others so they can be knowledgeable as well.So they can make the right decision.But they still have the choice of being ignorant.It'll always be there.Some will isolate it,some will go with it.
Everyone's an indivual,and all you can really do,is warn them and be there for them.
Iris
· 7 months ago
I had problems like that too. My college buddies (whom I thought were gonna be my closests until graduation day) fell out of friendship. They suddenly seemed so cold and distant, as if I wasn't there. Until now, we don't speak to each other, I feel that ours is already broken and I don't have the power to fix it. But I hope in time we will all be in good terms without the friction of being together in one room.
Anyway, about your problem I guess she has a reason for her actions. Maybe she's spending too much time with her guy and that chuckle and smile meant nothing (some people are like that, my ex-college buddies are), and those were just little nothings and have empty meanings - my ex-buddies tell this a lot. Does she do that always? Chuckling and smiling, in a sense of ignorance? If so, then there IS something wrong. Go talk to her in private and ask what is the matter (obviously, the situation calls for confrontation) and if she ignores you again tell her you are worried. Chances are, she'll be telling little bits of info unwoven which you may take as hints of what she's up to lately.
What do you think I shall do about my problem? I think you should take this casually yet seriously. This kind of situation, when left unnoticed, will lead to friendship on the rocks. Any thoughts on what she is doing? If in a sense of a not-so-good feeling I think that she's more likely to spend with the guy she's been seeing. But if I'm gonna look at the other side (the bright side) I think she may have a surprise for you. I think most smiles are results of hidden intents.
nazmin
· 7 months ago
Try asking her again, but be serious about it and tell her that your worried about her, and you just want to know whats going (like any other friend) also tell her that you'll be there whenever she needs you. Just make it clear.
Shes probably not up to that much, maybe skipping a few more classes the usual. .. hope this helps. Good luck! :]
vikanda
· 7 months ago
What do you think I shall do about my problem? If asking her again seriously won't work, try asking around? Like the people who know her.
Any thoughts on what she is doing? I'm probably as suspicious about her actions as you are, with peer pressure and all that.
ann
· 7 months ago
What do you think I shall do about my problem? why not ask her again and tell her that you could be trusted and you might to be her spy if you like or you could hire one seriously don't give in her.
Any thoughts on what she is doing? yah maybe she's being influenced by he guy shes seeing.
Tin
· 7 months ago
Ahh, I don't know. Maybe it's something too private that she wont' share even to you. Sorry to hear about this. But to tell you the truth, I also spent lesser time with my friends when I had my boyfriend. Of course the time was divided. I just hope that the guy she's seeing right now is a good influence just like you are to her.
gail
· 7 months ago
Yah. Try asking her again. if she still doesn't want to react. Stop. Ask your other friends. If she's not that honest.. it's okay. Atleast, your honest ayt?
Chiui
· 7 months ago
are you inlove with her? HAHAHA just kidding. anyway, um. my sister is experiencing the same thing. bad influence. well, try talking to her, and if she doesnt pay attention, then im not sure if she's really your friend yknao. let her learn by herself. the hard way. any thoughts on what she's doing? um.. probably bad influence.
Gel
· 7 months ago
She's probably influenced by someone in the wrong way and I understand your concern considering that it's quite evident that she's a good friend of yours. Maybe you can write her a letter or maybe if you know her parents, you can seek them for advice/enlightenment?
yvan
· 7 months ago
I think you should try asking her again but making her feel that: 1. she can trust you, and 2. you won't judge her no matter what she tells you... If she still doesn't want to tell you then I think you should just let her find her time to tell you. At least she knows that you're interested and willing to listen.
grace
· 7 months ago
oh, that's something really serious. she's being influenced badly by the guy? or maybe not just the guy. maybe she's into friends that are bad influences. talk to her seriously about it.
Ericka
· 7 months ago
That's sad. :( I guess she really have a hard problem. Maybe you should try talking to her alone. Try to ask her what's going on. And ask for her honesty. Can I ask something? Are you talking about the girl on your header? ^^;
iish
· 7 months ago
i think you should talk to her again..if she refuses.. give her time..
Chiui
· 7 months ago
@your comment: hahaha it's good that you love me. if you dont, i will kill you. HAHA loool. kidding. :D
Miss Cherry
· 7 months ago
Aww that really sucks. I felt lonely for what happened with your friendship. I already experienced the same with my ex-bestfriend. I thought we'll gonna be friends till the end but she's hanging out with her boyfriend almost all of the time. Well, I did confront her but she won't listen that's why I ended up our friendship. Not really ended but she's not my bestfriend anymore.
In your situation, you have to talk to her and tell her you're serious and you really need some good explanation. That's what I think is the best solution to your problem. If she won't listen, then, find another friend :) Always smile.
What do you think I shall do about my problem? Don't think about it that much though I know it's a big deal. Just be happy w/ ur life.
Any thoughts on what she is doing? Maybe she's just enjoying the company of the other guy.
kathrinx™
· 7 months ago
oh my..mahirap nga yan.. i suggest the proper thing to do is to talk with her regarding this matter. i hope the two of you will do good soon.. tc
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The rest is up to her.Her choices,her dilemmas,her life.Ofcourse,you want your friend to be safe and happy etc,but the thing is,these days people just don't listen.If i tell one of my friends to stop smoking because it's bad for his health,do you honestly think he'll listen to me? The only way they'll know what you mean,is by experiencing and seeing the effects,which yeah,sometimes it's too late to turn back.But I as a friend already did my job,now it's up to him to decide.
Are you with me?
That's just my opinion.Everyone lives and learns,sometimes they learn a little too late,but if they don't listen,what else can you do?
This weekend was very interesting as I began talking with this old friend of mine,and he began spilling out everything he regretted and you know what? He learned a lot.And although it was the hard way,he still learned,and he'll take this pot of experience and feed what's inside to others so they can be knowledgeable as well.So they can make the right decision.But they still have the choice of being ignorant.It'll always be there.Some will isolate it,some will go with it.
Everyone's an indivual,and all you can really do,is warn them and be there for them.
Anyway, about your problem I guess she has a reason for her actions. Maybe she's spending too much time with her guy and that chuckle and smile meant nothing (some people are like that, my ex-college buddies are), and those were just little nothings and have empty meanings - my ex-buddies tell this a lot. Does she do that always? Chuckling and smiling, in a sense of ignorance? If so, then there IS something wrong. Go talk to her in private and ask what is the matter (obviously, the situation calls for confrontation) and if she ignores you again tell her you are worried. Chances are, she'll be telling little bits of info unwoven which you may take as hints of what she's up to lately.
What do you think I shall do about my problem?
I think you should take this casually yet seriously. This kind of situation, when left unnoticed, will lead to friendship on the rocks.
Any thoughts on what she is doing?
If in a sense of a not-so-good feeling I think that she's more likely to spend with the guy she's been seeing. But if I'm gonna look at the other side (the bright side) I think she may have a surprise for you. I think most smiles are results of hidden intents.
Shes probably not up to that much, maybe skipping a few more classes the usual. .. hope this helps. Good luck! :]
If asking her again seriously won't work, try asking around? Like the people who know her.
Any thoughts on what she is doing?
I'm probably as suspicious about her actions as you are, with peer pressure and all that.
Any thoughts on what she is doing? yah maybe she's being influenced by he guy shes seeing.
anyway, um. my sister is experiencing the same thing. bad influence. well, try talking to her, and if she doesnt pay attention, then im not sure if she's really your friend yknao. let her learn by herself. the hard way.
any thoughts on what she's doing? um.. probably bad influence.
1. she can trust you, and 2. you won't judge her no matter what she tells you... If she still doesn't want to tell you then I think you should just let her find her time to tell you. At least she knows that you're interested and willing to listen.
In your situation, you have to talk to her and tell her you're serious and you really need some good explanation. That's what I think is the best solution to your problem. If she won't listen, then, find another friend :) Always smile.
What do you think I shall do about my problem?
Don't think about it that much though I know it's a big deal. Just be happy w/ ur life.
Any thoughts on what she is doing?
Maybe she's just enjoying the company of the other guy.